Illustration by Monica Kim Garza.
Sex Tapes #3
Sex Tapes is a series of up front and anonymous interviews about the sex lives of various women.
Are you in a relationship?
No
How often do you have sex?
It depends. If I’m dating a few people I have a lot of sex, maybe everyday with different people for a few weeks then it settles down to one person a few times a week. Recently that’s been the pattern then I get bored of that one person. I haven’t had sex for 10 days at the minute.
Do you like having sex?
On the whole yes but I have to make sure I get them to do what I like. I’ve had a lot of terrible sex where the other person didn’t know what they were doing and I didn’t know what I liked so I just went along with it.
What’s your favourite thing to do when with a partner?
I love sucking dicks.
What do you not like to do?
I don’t do anal or anything too S&M.
Do you sometimes do things you don’t particularly like? Why?
Sometimes I’ll have sex when I can’t really be bothered.
Do you fake orgasms?
Yes
Do you masturbate? If so how often?
Yes. Probably about three times a week.
Do you cheat on your partners? If yes why?
Yes. I do it because I’m not serious about anyone.
“I fantasise about threesomes, orgies, random guys I see on the bus, my old tutor.”
Have you ever been cheated on?
Yes. It didn’t feel great but we weren’t that serious. We split up when I found he’d been sleeping with his ex-girlfriend.
What’s the best sex you’ve ever had and why?
With my old roommate. We never dated we just used to sleep with each other whenever we were at home, we did it for about six months then he moved to Australia and now we don’t speak to each other. He used to give me the most intense orgasms, I can’t really explain why (maybe chemical or something). I could have sex with him, have an orgasm and if I went back to my bed I’d make myself come thinking about him. We would have never worked as a couple though, he was much too annoying and flaky.
What’s been the worst sex?
In a way really great sex is scary because you’re almost out of control it feels so intense and with my old flat mate I knew it was amazing and that it wouldn’t last so it made me feel sad as well as incredible.
The worst in terms of “urgh what the fuck?”, was with a guy I really liked. His dick was really fat but he couldn’t get it up so he tried to push it in but it was like trying to push a raw chicken breast into my vagina. He then went down on me but he was so slavery and noisy it made me feel gross.
What do you fantasize about?
Threesomes, orgies, random guys I see on the bus, my old tutor.
Would you ever act on your fantasies?
I’d have a threesome and maybe go to an orgy.
What do you wish someone had told you about sex before you started having it?
That you should work out what you like and don’t be ashamed to ask for it or make sure you get it. Don’t give someone a blowjob because you don’t want to have sex with him, just go and finish your coursework and don’t do anything with him.